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I had my soul mate Romeo put to sleep yesterday he was 14. He had a thyroid problem and a heart problem. We tried everything but he could not be saved. I don't have children so my pets are a very big part of life. We were so close he slept on my pillow every night purring.. He is being cremated and will wear his ashes in a locket. I feel traumatised about him bing put down and completely grief stricken. We adored each other... The pains so bad I just want him back. Just want to contact some people who understand

Dear Caroline I lost my beloved little angel Fluffy on Saturday 14th July 2012, he was a month off from his 18th birthday! It was so sudden, there isn't a day where I don't think about him we miss him terribly. My heart goes out to you!! Fluffy always slept on my daughter's bed, she finds it hard coming out of the shower & not seeing him there anymore. We bured him in our back garden & we have put an angel statue next to him! I too just want him back as I miss his dense fur coat, I still have his brother who is much thinner than Fluffy was & an 19 year old it is very painful do cry for him don't be ashamed to shed your tears all the best xxx

I am so sorry for your loss, i really know how you are feeling i had to have my lovely boy who was 11 pts sleep in nov i have his mum and so saw him being born. i dont have any children so my pets are my babies too,he was my boy and i think about him every single day, but it will get easier remember all the lovely memories you have of romeo, the silly things he did the naughty things! he will always be with you( and im having a cry whilst writing this!) just remember you did the best thing for him and he will never leave your side. big hug xxx

So sorry Caroline for your loss we lost our precious pooch in May 2012 so suddenly I can't function properly I think about her every minute of every day and I know its part of life but it was so out of the blue so I know how you feel. R.I.P little one xx

I know how you feel, Caroline. When we lost our wonderful, quirky, incredibly loyal cat, I could not believe how painful it was or how much I missed her. She has been gone for years now, but left a hole in our lives that could not be filled. The pain DOES ease up and you do learn to love other cats, but it is so hard.

<3 to you.

Caroline we all do realy understand how you must be feeling. No words can ever comfort or ease the sadness, but please do believe us when we say that as time passes, the pain does ease. You will always have the love and happy memories and your love will stay and Romeo will always be in your heart..................
Sleep tight Romeo

Thanks crying my heart out cant imagine ever feeling peace again

I am cuddled up in the blanket he favoured towards the end I am never going to wash iit x so sad to read your losses x

I am so sorry very for your loss, Caroline. I know exactly how you feel as my cats and dogs are my children as, like you, I never had human babies! I lost my old girlie, Stephie, in September last year and I still haven't really got over her loss. I have her ashes in a wooden cat casket. I have a tiny little bit of her fur which I am going to put in a locket.
Your lovely Romeo will still be very much with you and you may feel his gentle presence round you in the next few days.
He will be at peace now and happy and content as an angel in heaven, although of course he will miss you and will be waiting for you until you are reunited once again. Try to remember all the lovely happy times you shared when he was comforting you with his purring. To my mind, there is nothing quite as lovely as the sound of a cat purring contentedly. All of us on this wonderful site do understand the pain and grief we all suffer when we lose a furry friend, so you have come to the right place to share your feelings. My love and prayers are with you at this very sad time. XX

Hi Caroline, I have just read your later comment and, like you, I haven't washed Stephie's bedding or the towel from her cat basket, which was her last resting place, or the little fleece bed where she had her heart attack. I can't imagine I shall ever wash any of those items, so you are not alone with your deep feelings of love. Use Romeo's blanket as your comfort blanket whenever you want to feel close to him. He will know that you are missing him terribly and he will be watching over you. It is so very hard but we do all get through this pain somehow, although it may not feel like it to you at the moment. I have 2 other cats and 2 rescue dogs and I adore all of them but it doesn't mean I miss my lovely Stephie any the less. Take great care of yourself. I'll be thinking of you. Love and hugs XX

Thank you so much for your lovely words.. Crying my eyes out in Romeos blanket but also a relief to know I am not alone or a mad cat lady!!

Let the tears flow, Caroline. I am at the stage where I am all cried out. I just have a very heavy heart and a lump in my throat when I think about my old pussycat. XX

I do really feel your pain and totally understand all the built up grief you're going through, I have been there and took 10 years before I decided to share my life again with a feline friend and I really wish I had'nt waited that long. Although nothing will make you feel better straight away you can be comforted by thinking how lucky you both are to have each other, although Romeo is not in his physical form he is embedded well into your heart where he is safe and at peace where he will remain forever. Time is a great healer, the pain will ease, missing our dear pets is part of living with them, so are precious memories they leave with us. Hang in there Caroline, with warm hugs xxx

Dear Caroline, I share your sadness and understand all the feelings you are going through at the loss of your beloved Romeo. I lost Toffee just 13 months ago and am still in pain and ache with her loss. She was my everything and the gap she has left is irreplaceable. I know I have so much love to give to another cat, but do not feel that I can at present. She is buried in the garden under the garden seat she loved to sit on, and we have a little brass plaque in her memory. The little grave always has flowers on it.
Romeo gave you unconditional love, and you loved him with a special bond we have with our pets, He will be in your heart forever, so always with you. Toffee's basket of toys are in the same place as they always were, and we have photos everywhere. You will feel him around you - love never dies. Bless you Caroline - you are amongst people here who share your sadness, share your tears, and understand every feeling you are feeling. We are here for you . RIP precious Romeo xx Love and prayers, Penny x

Thanks so much for the beautiful words. It means so much. yes it is so true that love never dies and he is in my heart... Just still want to hear his loud voice waking us up in the middle of the night cos he was hungry or wet or wanted a cuddle! I have decided to get a tattoo of his name as well...with a paw print. Luckily I have found a cat lover to do it so really looking forward to it x x

I still cry over Fluffy he is my desktop pic on my pc & sometimes I will just break down! I have kept his collar & you know what? He has immortalised himself in a painting as well as the month of April in my calendar! I do believe in life after death don't know if you do but if you do look out for signs feathers the colour of your cat. I had a load of grey/white ones as well as a butterfly coming into my house good idea re. tattoo x

I get little signs - had a dream about my beloved Toffee the other night, and woke myself up calling her name; my husband said I was calling out in my sleep. The cat flap often makes a noise, although locked. I believe they will always be around you, and where she is buried I can sit on the garden seat in the nice weather and talk to her. She is buried under the seat where she loved to sit, with lavender bushes either side that she loved to roll around in. When my husband was preparing her little grave, a beautiful robin flew and sat on the seat; often see a robin sitting out there.

Hope you get the tattoo done Caroline; that will make you feel he is near.

Thanks ladies your posts make me sad but also so relieved that others have the same feelings and deep special friendship with their beloved cats. I really hope there is an afterlife and that our cats are there I will look for signs definitely. I hope he can find a way to show me he's ok... And that we will meet again one day.. It's v v hard. The ashes should be back wed so at least he will be home. Really hard to cope with insensitive comments from people who don't have or don't lovevtheirvpets x x

I have looked at The memorials for Fluffy and Toffee so I know they look like. Just beautiful. X x

Thank you Caroline for comment about Toffee's memorial. There are always insensitive people who just don't understand - they have obviously never shared the special love of a wonderful pet. You had such a close bond with Romeo, so he'll be always close to you, and when his ashes are back home. that will give you comfort.
Take care - thinking of you with love and hugs xx

Hi Caroline, I saw your post at the weekend and can't apologise enough for not writing until now, as I have been meaning to write for days. Firstly, I'm so desperately sorry for your loss, but you have come to the right place as we are all here to support you and we have all been through the same...you are not alone. We lost our beautiful Bengal cat Oscar on 9th December 2011 (you can find a tribute to him in the memorial section of this site). He was the most precious, most amazing little thing, just so special and he had the sweetest temperament. It's been just over a year now, but there isn't a day that goes by where I don't think of him. I would do absolutely anything to have him back. We had 4 Bengals at the time (now down to 3) and, as much as I know I shouldn't say this, he was my favourite. We had a unique bond and I shall never stop loving him, nor will I ever forget him (*tears as I type this*). I can offer little in the way of comfort except to say that the pain will ease, although it will never completely go away of course. For weeks (months even) I couldn't speak about our boy without bursting into tears. That has eased, although I can't think of him or speak about him without my eyes filling with tears. As Penny has written above, there are many insensitive people who don't - and never will - understand. I lost a 20-year friendship over the loss of my boy...a "friend" was outraged at a comment I made on Facebook about loving my pet as much as if he were a child...she went mental and said that a pet can always be "replaced". Needless to say we are no longer friends. Surround yourself with those who care. Sorry to have babbled, this isn't flowing well. Just know that I am thinking of you and am sending virtual hugs your way. Take good care meantime; I'm sure Romeo would not wish to see you this way. XXXX

Hello Caroline, I lost my beloved persian Mollie 15 August 2011, she was at a grand age of 19/20 not sure exact age as she was rescued, not a day goes by without thinking of her, she had kidney disease, we tried everything! we have photos all round the house, and even today I shed a tear when I think of her, she was one of lifes special cat, I had always heard that a person has one special cat in their life, and had always believed that to be true, but I am now starting to believe otherwise, I could not stand the empty house, ( we have no children either) and really needed somthing to love, but could not cope with the thought of a kitten after having such an elderly girl, our lovely nurse at our vets suggested to contact breeders and look for a ex breeding queen of about 2 years of age, so they are still fun but not manic as a kitten, I waited a couple of weeks and started looking at the internet, we then found a breeder and I had a chat with her and hit it off, she said she had a cat that needed a home, so we arranged to visit, the persian we went to see was as different in looks and colour than Mollie, but was very shy and didn't want to know, we were in the kitchen and there was a persian in a cage going nuts, putting her paws out to grab us, so my partner asked if he could hold her, she was a tortie just like Mollie, and was needing a home, but I wasn't keen as she looked like my old girl, and felt it was wrong, but this girl choose us, she sat in Rich's arms and purred her heart out, we then agreed to have her, had to go back two weeks later to collect her, and drove home for 7 hours with a very happy cat, and nervous new owners, at first it was hard and kept thinking Mollie was there as they look similar, and somtimes we still call her Mollie by mistake, it has taken a year, and although she's not Mollie there is somthing of Mollie about her, and i talk to her and tell Phoebe all about Mollie, and whilst the grief is there is a little numb because of my little Phoebe, we might of brought her from a breeder but she was still rescued, and I love her to bits, so give yourself time it will get a little easier, and you will love again when your ready, I still cry about Mollie and miss her to bits but Phoebe has help and I love her for that too, take care and remember your not alone at all, there are loads of us that have lost and loved, xxxxxxxxxxxx
(apologies for gabbling)

Hello Caroline,
Your Romeo was a very luck cat to have you. Right now he is still with you in spirit.
I too will wear my Daisy's ashes in a locket. She just passed 2 days ago.

Rob

So sorry Rob ; i think to wear you Daisy's ashes in a locket is a lovely idea; she will be so close to you all the time xx Penny x

Hi Penny,
Thank you Penny,
It was only 2 days ago that I had to make the dreaded decision
She had cancer

Rob

Hi Rob, My cat had cancer as well. I feel Toffee around me . When you have had such a close relationship you will always feel Daisy around you, Take care. I understand how you are feeling. Hugs xxxxxx Penny