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16/03/13 we were forced to put you to rest. it's been less than 24hrs and i miss you more than words can describe. i'd do anything for a cuddle or to even here your footsteps on the floor! i'm glad your at peace now baby girl!! and i'm sorry that i had to put you to rest but we both know it was for the best. you gazed at me one last time then i seen your eyes go blank. i could see that you were no longer there. this is one of the hardest things i've ever had to do! and i cant say enough how much i am going to miss you. you will always hold a place in my heart. i love you more than anything. sleep tight princess! mammy and daddy xxx

Heart goes out to you sweetheart, its never easy. So sorry xx

I am so very sorry. I know what you are experiencing and how tough a decision you had to make. We all had to at some point. Our fur babies are playing with each other over the Rainbow Bridge, just waiting for us to join them once more. Their paw prints they leave on our hearts are there for ever more. My Lucky is there now playing in the forever sunshine and welcoming new friends, your baby girl will make an excellent friend and companion for my bonnie lad who went there earlier this year.
Farewell beautiful girl and run free over the bridge to your new friends xx

Dear NicoleApril, We are going through exactly the same thing - our lovely boy, Jet, was put to sleep on 17th. I'm sobbing now, just reading what you wrote - I feel just the same. He was my precious boy, my soul mate dog and I will never, ever, stop loving and missing him. Even though you know you are acting for the best and they are no longer suffering, the lack of them is like a physical ache inside that leaves you feeling that there is no joy left in your life. I know they can't live forever, but I didn't realise it would be so painful. I feel as if part of myself has been ripped away. Jet had a great life and quite a long one, but it wasn't long enough. Rest in peace, my baby boy xx Know you are not alone, Nicole - we all feel for you and understand x

I would just like to thank all of you for your kind words and support. It made me feel a little bit better and I am so sorry for your losses. My dog Castro had to be put to sleep because of a mass on her brain which was never going to get better. She was the family's dog but she was my little girl. If she could have came everywhere with me she would have. In the end the decision to put her to sleep was the hardest decision I have ever had to make. It was awful. I keep telling myself it was for the best but I can't help feeling terribly guilty. The vetinary service who put her to sleep gave us some options of what to do next which were, take her home and bury her, have her communily cremated or get her privately cremated and have her back at home. We decided to get her privately cremated. Yes it was very expensive but knowing we were going to get her back home and that she would no longer bein a strange place by herself made us feel a whole lot better. She got delivered yesterday morning and the lady who delivered her (the owner of the crem) was asking what we were going to do with her. I was telling her how we were thinking about burying her in the garden when she suddenly stopped me in my tracks. She said, never bury them outside because if its cold, your going to know their cold and all you will want to do is bring them indoors. She then said, I have had 7 labs all of which I got their ashes stuffed inside a teddybear (of a Labrador dog) at least then, they are indoors and we can have a cuddle whenever we like. It nought that was an amazing idea and that is what we are getting done with Castro. I thought I'd share that idea because I guess it's another way of helping us cope. Some may find this silly but I also have a notebook, I use this to write letters to Castro. This had helped the grieving process a lot although I cannot stop bursting into tears and I can't get the image out of my head when I seen the life disappear out of her but it may help you's too. I write her a letter 2-3 times a day and it just feels like I'm having a conversation with her again. I don't think my life will ever be the same without her and the pain isn't going anywhere at the minute but I know I can never have her back so I guess I'll have to make do with what I have left. Again I am sorry to hear about your losses. X

Hope this helps x

Everything you said resonates with me, Jet would follow me anywhere too. The idea about the soft toy is great, I never thought of that. We also had Jet cremated, so I could do that. There are other things I have heard about that you can do with their ashes. I will probably scatter some in his favourite places and keep some in a casket. There are some lovely ones you can personalise with a photo. There are also various pendants, keyrings, etc, that can hold a small portion of the ashes, so you can have them with you. There is a place near here (Essex) that incorporates the ashes actually in the glass of the pendant/ring, etc, or a paperweight. But the thing I would most like to do is have a commemorative tattoo, including a microscopic portion of his ashes. That way they can never be separated from you. It depends on whether you like tattoos or not, I suppose! I know a local tattooist who will do this and he is a great artist, so I could have a portrait of Jet, with his ashes. Not for everyone, but I think it will help me. I agree not to bury them in the garden - I would be worried about if we move. Anyway, good luck and best wishes from a fellow sufferer - and don't beat yourself up about your decision. I try to think of it as a last gift of peace and love which prevented them suffering. Take care x

Thank you so much for sharing your ideas. I am also thinking about getting a tattoo as well as I too think that's a great idea of always having her with me. And she'll be there forever. I'm glad my ideas may have helped. Same to you. And thanks again for sharing your thoughts. X